What would change if someone held you with the same care you show your children?
It can be hard to feel grounded in the face of daily, sometimes hourly crises with children, demands at work, and household management, all with little recognition or thanks.
Villagesmith is a place to step out of the seemingly unending demands and let someone else hold you for once.
You have a real impact, right here,
in the day-to-day moments. Go to bed feeling proud of how you showed up.
"I swore I would never yell at my kids, and then ...."
"It's so easy for them, but that doesn't work with my kids."
"I simply have no idea what I'm doing."
"Why does my kid do that ... and is it may fault?"
"I didn't know how much I needed to do this work until I saw how it was affecting my kids."
What if "good enough" really was good enough?
How would it feel to go to bed feeling proud of how you parented?
Parent from your true, grounded self. Don’t sweat the small stuff, because you know what’s most important, and that mistakes are opportunities for connection. End each day sure you’re giving your kids what they need to feel loved and build resilience.
I'm a specialist who joins your village for a while, so
you don't have to know it all.
I'm a Licensed Mental Health Therapist with 20 years of hands on experience working with kids and parents, extensive training in parent-child development and personal experience as a parent myself.
I support parents in processing their own mental health and understanding what their children need. We process what's getting in the way without adding to-do items or more guilt, then you build secure attachment in real time with your child and heal your own wounds.
What therapy with me looks like:
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Start with a 20 minute consult call to see if we’re a good fit
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Schedule an intake session, where we gather history and set goals
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Do the work: meeting weekly or bi-weekly, you share the load, build parenting tools and self-compassion, and process the past, checking in on progress frequently
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When you’re ready, you transition to parenting from your true, grounded self
Right now you might feel too overwhelmed to even ask for help, but support now can change how things feel going forward. Now is the time to build your team.
Reach out to schedule a free 20 minute consultation call
For support for your child aged birth - 8 years, see Therapy for Children and Families
Neurodiverse, LGBTQIA+
& Non-traditional Families
are the norm here
The world needs los of different kinds of people, and lots of different kinds of families. But systems are often set up for just one kind of person -- one kind of brain, one kind of gender, one kind of family. If you don't fit in those boxes, I got you.
Neurodiverse Families
You love your kid, but sometimes you just don’t understand them? You want to help but you don’t know how? Or sometimes you’re even afraid of them? Your kids are wonderful, but the sensory overwhelm, executive function demands, or constant need for attention are too much? The world needs lots of different kinds of brains, but its set up for pretty much just one kind. Whether Autistic, ADHD, or sensory sensitive, neurodiverse families trying to make it in a neurotypical world need more support. Attachment, discipline, and so much more look different for these families. I offer more tools, yes, but also a new way of looking at each of your true needs, and a chance to finally meet each other on shared ground.
Queer Families
If you know, you know: queer families have so much love and joy to share with their kids! And they often face different challenges than other families, from conception, to homophobia, to complex family dynamics. You shouldn't have to educate your therapist on what makes your family special -- queerness is the norm here! Your kids are wonderful, but the sensory overwhelm, executive function demands, or constant need for attention are too much? The world needs lots of different kinds of brains, but its set up for pretty much just one kind. Whether Autistic, ADHD, or sensory sensitive, neurodiverse families trying to make it in a neurotypical world need more support. Attachment, discipline, and so much more look different for these families. I offer more tools, yes, but also a new way of looking at each of your true needs, and a chance to finally meet each other on shared ground.
Trans and Gender Non-Conforming Families
Variation is the norm in the natural world – there are so many ways to be in a body, to be in a gender, to be a parent. When you’ve been brave enough to step outside of the sex-assigned-at-birth box and live your true self, you deserve celebration. And when your child is exploring gender, they deserve the best support we can give them. And, in the world today, trans and gender nonconforming families face oppression and danger no one should face. As a non-binary therapist myself, I work with these families to identify how to keep themselves safe, how to support their kids, and how to share their gifts with the world.
Polyamorous Families
Ethically non-monogamous and polyamorous families can raise kids absolutely surrounded by love. While non-monogamy can come with challenges for the grown ups – lots to learn and unlearn – it can be a gift to children, who have parents who understand attachment, take responsibility for their own needs, and are happy and fulfilled. Working with non-monogamous families, I bring an exquisite understanding of attachment theory, knowledge of children's needs, and lived experience.
Single Parent Families
Being the "only one" is a tremendous responsibility. In a world where parents are already stretched thin, single parents really have no slack. I’m a single parent myself, and I know the good, the bad, and the ugly, as they say. I also know what they don’t talk about – the devotion of single parents, the closeness and the joys that others will never know. You deserve support from someone who knows the pressures you're under and can celebrate your choices.